Last week, we introduced Samadhi — the eighth and final limb of yoga. In the traditional sense, this state is only achieved after achieving the two limbs before it, Dhyana and Dharana. Though, in a more contemporary sense, Samadhi is about finding peace — everlasting peace. Just like everything else in life, Samadhi can be achieved by finding balance — accepting the good and the bad.
Give this exercise a try:
Grab a piece of paper and a pen.
Write a list of things that are currently good in your life.
Next to it, write a list of things that aren’t going as great.
Can you hold both sides together, in your mind, at the same time?
Let your eyes relax.
Start to breathe deep.
What do you feel?
What do you notice?
Write it down.
How did that go?
It’s a practice and may not come easy, and it’s meant to be practiced more than once. Revisit this practice as your life changes and moves. Notice if you had a desire to “change” something. Though the point isn’t to make a change, it’s to hold both the good and the bad. At the same time, it doesn’t mean you can’t make a change.
The desire to change typically comes by going back to the first two limbs of yoga: Yamas and Niyamas. And the change typically is manifested when we practice the next two: Pranayama and Asana. The next three limbs — Pratyahara, Dharana, and Dhyana — are used to help build that interoceptive awareness, which helps you reach the last limb — Samadhi.
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