Read that one again to yourself. Maybe even read it out loud. Let it sink in for a moment or two. Then grab your journal and a pen. Write down your answers to these questions:
What bubbles up? What rubs up against the thing you don’t want to see, that you want to squirrel away and hide from the rest of the world? It probably starts with an “I” and ends in a “Y.” Maybe it’s something else completely different.
Unfortunately, shame and infertility tend to go hand-in-hand, but they don’t have to. There’s power in 1) owning your story, and 2) sharing your story with others. No matter the format, no matter the audience, just getting it out there can bring a sense of relief.
So ask yourself “am I letting my fear of being seen as imperfect, infertile even, keep me from owning my trying to conceive journey thus far?” And if the answer is “yes,” ask yourself “why?” Then ask “what would it take for me to accept and forgive everything that I’m trying to hide from the outside world, from my friends, from my family?”
And if you feel ready, even if you wanna keep it anonymous, we’d love to help you share your story. Here is a link to a short questionnaire with five main questions. Take maybe 10 minutes to answer them and hit submit. You never know… your words might help someone else through infertility.